NEW DEBUT BOOK

The Identity Reset

Most people aren’t struggling because they are achieving, grieving, or healing wrong. They’re struggling because they’ve lost a sense of who they are now, and no one prepared them for that. Life’s turning points—death, divorce, breakups, empty-nesting, financial gains or health losses—can make your “before self” feel distant or gone.

The Identity Reset helps you answer the hardest question after loss or transition—not “How do I survive?” but “How do I understand who I am now?”

Association Package

If you guide a community, association, or member-based organization, you know how much identity, burnout, and life transitions shape the people you serve. The Identity Reset equips your members with practical tools to understand who they are now—emotionally, personally, and professionally. Perfect for grief groups, leadership cohorts, wellness programs, HR teams, and college student organizations seeking to support their people with grounded, compassionate frameworks.

When loss or major transition hits—through death, divorce, health changes, or sudden upheaval—you don’t just lose what happened on the outside. You lose the version of yourself you were used to.

Your decision-making slows down. Your priorities get fuzzy. Your confidence drops because the old data no longer applies. You’re not broken—you’re living with a version of yourself built for yesterday, not today.

The Identity Reset gives you a simple way to understand where you are now, what’s influencing you, and how to make choices that fit the person you’re becoming. It helps you get clear again, feel more grounded, and reconnect with others in a world that doesn’t slow down when life hits hard.

If your life has changed and you can’t use an old version of yourself to get through it, this book helps you update that version—intentionally and without losing the parts of you that still matter.

Do you feel like life changed, but you haven’t had a
chance to catch up?

You’ve started noticing which relationships support you and which ones drain you
You’re resisting a reality that’s already changed
You’re repeating patterns that aren’t supportive
You feel stuck because you lack clarity and aren't sure of who or what to trust anymore

You feel caught between the life you had and the one you didn’t expect to be living
You're unsure of what you need or want now
You're unsure how to face life's unending changes
You want people to love your true self, not the old version of you that makes them feel comfortable

Resetting Your Identity
Helps You

Understand Who You Are After Loss & Change

Get Clarity Around What's Happened and What's Next

Find Inner Peace and Confidence

Meet the Author

Ashley Olivia Nelson is the founder of Learning About Grief, where she helps those experiencing loss and identity transitions. Since 2013, she has supported others across healthcare, mental health, life insurance, and funeral care.

Twice widowed, Ashley brings both professional insight and personal understanding to every conversation about loss and renewal. Her work has appeared in POPSUGAR, Marie Claire, Shape, and Next Avenue.

“This is a beautifully written book melding personal experience and professional expertise into a guide through the pain and potential to be found in loss. It is informative and insightful about all the emotions and impacts of loss while also offering practical advice. Uniquely and wisely, Ashley Olivia Nelson acknowledges how universal loss includes all the losses we experience in addition to those caused by death. Through written exercises and frequent ‘recaps,’ the reader will come away feeling deeply understood, more self-aware, bolstered and inspired.”

Elena Lister, MD, child and adolescent psychiatrist, grief expert, and author of Giving Hope: Conversations with Children About Illness, Death and Loss

“Ashley Nelson’s The Identity Reset is a compassionate and practical guide for anyone whose identity has been upended by grief or trauma. She does a beautiful job weaving personal insight with accessible practices that help readers integrate their loss while reclaiming their voice and direction. This book will be a powerful companion for grievers, clinicians, and anyone supporting others through transition.”

Julia Warren, C-IAYT and grief support specialist

“Globally renowned Certified Grief Specialist Ashley Olivia Nelson has written a book that offers safety and warmth for grievers wrestling with the question ‘Who am I?’ after loss. By sharing her personal journey of multiple losses and her identity reset, Ashley lovingly guides her readers through the work needed to reset and create a True Identity that will step into the world with them.”

Janice Tostohost of “Grief Journeys” on Philadelphia 92.9 FM G-Town Radio