Grief does not end after we’ve wished our final goodbyes. If you want to support someone who is experiencing loss, know that you are most needed after the funeral is over, and when the shock wears off.
Grief is hard. It is exhausting and mentally taxing. And while I’m sure you may know this, or have experienced glimpses of this by now, I want you to know that your pain is fully real, completely valid, and entirely yours.
My initial thoughts on a support group were not anything close to what I discovered them to be. Eventually, after months of going crazy and not knowing how to deal with my confused mind and aching heart, I joined a grief group. Here’s what I learned and why you should join one.
If you’re a friend or family member trying to provide comfort to a grieving heart, the last thing you want to do is bring them more pain. So when you’re told, “Your words and actions are hurtful. You don’t understand,” it may be easy to feel unappreciated or confused. I was just trying to help, you think. The Story of Peanuts and Grief After a long walk, Maria said to her friend Samantha, “Hey, I’m kind of hungry.” Samantha, recalling she had food in her backpack, offered some to Maria. “Hey, here’s some peanuts. I know it’s not much, but it’s all I have.” “Oh, I appreciate it, but I’m afraid I’m allergic,” said Maria. “But, I’m trying to be helpful. Just eat the peanuts,” Samantha said a bit bothered with her friend. “It’s kind of you, but the peanuts you’re giving me will make my stomach hurt more,” Maria…